Paul Barbour, 93, died Thursday, March 4, 2010, surrounded by his
family. He was preceded in death by his beloved wife of 57 years,
Nell, his sister Julia Inloes, and brother Joseph Barbara. He is
survived by his children, William (Nancy), Peter (Maureen), Elizabeth
Collins (Gerald), and Matthew, his sister Melita Lieblang, and many
nieces and nephews. He was born June 14, 1916 in Malta, and
immigrated to the United States with his family in 1928.
He served in the U.S. Army Air Corps in World War II. After
his discharge, he wrote professionally for the Jim Handy, Ross Roy,
and General Motors companies as well as on a freelance basis. He was
a devoted father, loving husband, caring friend, and patient teacher
who will be dearly missed by all who knew and loved him.
A memorial service will take place Saturday, March 13, 2010, at 12:00 p.m.
in the chapel at GPUC.
This month is the seventy first anniversary of the Grosse Pointe Unitarian Church. Today we will take notice of the things we pass by every Sunday morning. Let us celebrate the art and artifacts that make our church home.
Grosse Pointe Unitarian Church Members and Friends,
Last Sunday a member said, laughing, “Reverend Mitra you make me have too much to do. You say I have to be compassionate and giving, justice seeking and honorable, loving and life affirming, a participant and also care about the world! It is too much.”
What a wonderful comment. Yes! The answer is, Yes. Not, Yes—you should be overwhelmed. But, YES! Find the Yes in you! What this means is something a colleague recently reminded me of; words from the Reverend Dr. Howard Thurman who said, “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and then go do it. Because what the world needs are people who have come alive.”
Coming alive is a hard thing to do these days. It is the middle of winter and life seems to be sleeping. The world is covered in a blanket of snow and deep breaths can chill the bones. We are all waiting for signs of spring.
As I watch the passing days of winter, I have been musing about passion, the kind of passion that comes from within an individual. It is passion that leads us to move, speak, and breathe with hope. Passion can be expressed through love, sarcasm, anger, desperation, longing, among other things. Passion is the waking expression of something within that has emerged. That is why religion is a manifestation of passion; it is that which is on the very edge of emergence. What a blessing it is to witness the abundance of passion in our religious community.
Ironically, passion is fed by a deeper stillness. The kind of stillness you find in the winter, stillness that opens our hearts and allows us to breathe deeply. For when we are still, even for a minute, our longings, hopes, and love can become present. In our stillness we can find power and clarity. And it is in the root of both stillness and passion that will lead us to be the people we want to be. To be, as our member expressed, compassionate and giving, justice seeking and honorable, loving and life affirming, a participant in a world we care about!
Let us live out the rest of winter with intention. The intention to find a stillness that will sustain our passions. The passion found at the church these days is rooted in you, the individual. Therefore, may our individual passions create a church community where each and all (re)discover what makes you “come alive.”
With Love,
Rev. Mitra
Please mark your calendars to join your fellow Unitarians for the annual Fellowship Dinner, this year on Saturday, March 20th. The Fellowship Dinner is one of the few opportunities each year to get all the members together for a social event. We gather for dinner, a little entertainment and a time to reflect on what this church means to each of us and to each other. Please plan to join us as we kick off the canvass drive for next year.
-Russell Chavey, Canvass committee
Parents have asked me “Why should I bring my child to church?” My answer is: Children should come to our church for the same reasons as adults:
Because the church experience speaks to them about their values and beliefs;
Because in our church they feel an acceptance as they truly are;
Because in our UU churches children can ask their questions about the meaning of life and religion and not feel threatened.
Because they are loved in church, even when they think that they don’t want to be there.
The children need us as wise parents to bring them to church, because they cannot bring themselves. See you in church this Sunday and hopefully, every Sunday with your children.
...Julie Artis
_______________________________
LOWER ELEMENTARY STUDENTS on March 7th will continue to explore our UU History with the topic, “Voice and Voting Counts”. Then on March 14th they will explore the topic, “A Peaceful World”.
UPPER ELEMENTARY STUDENTS on March 7th will continue explore UU History ”The Adventures of our People: Fannie Farmer”. Then on March 14th they will review the history of GPUC for “Founder’s Day”.
JUNIORS on March 6th all juniors are to be at church by 1:00 p.m. to set up for the Spaghetti Dinner and on March 7th they will prep for the Spaghetti Dinner. On March 14th the juniors will study the history of our church for “Founder’s Day”.
SENIORS on March 7th will attend the Spaghetti Dinner as a group at 6:00 p.m. and on March 14th will attend the church service at 10:30 a.m. to celebrate “Founder’s Day”.
NEW RE NAME TAG RACK-Please stop by the RE wing and see our new RE Name Tag Rack. Our very own George Gray made it for our students. Thank you George for your time, talent and kindness!
DRE CLUSTER MEETING-The GPUC/RE program is hosting the Northern Cluster Meeting for all DRE’s on Friday, March 12 at 10:00 a.m. This is a monthly meeting for Michigan DRE’s to come together and discuss programs and share information and resources. It will also be a time to share our beautiful church and introduce our staff to other DRE’s.
Julie Artis, Director of Religious Education
Laura Spurr, long time community friend, died Friday, February 19th, 2010. Laura was in California when she suffered a fatal heart attack. A memorial service will be held at the church on April 3rd, 2010 at 11am. Please keep Laura's husband Stephen Spurr and sons Nathaniel and Josiah in your thoughts at this time.
Edward Sharples is retired from Wayne State University where among many roles he served as Chair of the Department of English, Professor of English, University Ombudsman and Dean of the College of Lifelong Learning. In addition, he served 18 years on the Ferndale Board of Education, 14 of them as president of the board. He is a former board president of the Birmingham Unitarian Church where he actively participates in numerous capacities.
He will discuss the Book of Genesis, chapters one and two from the perspective of a humanist.
Edward Sharples
Matthew Parker grew up in Detroit and Parker earned an MA in Education Administration from the University of Detroit in 1987. He is the founder of the Michigan Faith Based Health Association, a coalition of faith-based organizations, public health professionals and others representing various fields of expertise. The Association was established to support the vision of supporting healthier lifestyles for citizens living in Michigan and recognizes that faith-based organizations have historically served as a cornerstone for human services within the community and is an excellent place to work to improve health behaviors. Please join us for what promises to be an enlightening talk about a topic that often gets politicized.
Matthew Parker
It is common practice for Ministers, Interim and Settled, to create a covenant with a former Minister or Minister Emeritus of any congregation. A covenant is used in many of our Unitarian Universalist congregations going through Ministerial transition, and emerges after the Ministers have several transition conversations on topics of leadership, needs, and congregational health. Your former minister, the Reverend John Corrado, and I have been in conversation since last September. Below is the covenant we created together. I am including it here so our community may know what John and I expect from each other as well as what the congregation can expect from us. My hope is that the covenant will be helpful for the whole community. I welcome conversation and questions, as needed. Please read on, knowing GPUC is deeply loved.
The purpose of a covenant of professional relations is to offer explicit and detailed clarification of responsibilities and roles of ministers in relation to the congregation. As fellowshipped Unitarian Universalist Ministers the Reverends Mitra Rahnema and John Corrado currently adhere to our professional code of conduct. In addition to those professional guidelines, with several months of conversation, below is a specific covenant.
A Covenant between the Reverends
Mitra Rahnema, Interim Minister and John Corrado, Minister Emeritus
In 2009 the Reverend John Corrado retired after serving the Grosse Pointe Unitarian Church for twenty-five years. John is no longer the minister of the congregation. He is now serving our Unitarian Universalist movement in new capacities; therefore his attention is required elsewhere. John will remain living in the larger metropolitan area with his wife Barbara. The congregation can be assured that John continues to love GPUC members and is committed to the health and future of the church. Therefore, Mitra and John agree:
All ministerial roles or duties with any congregant, and their families are the responsibility of Mitra, the congregation's current Interim Minister. John will not offer or be available to accept any ministerial requests. All services, such a weddings, memorials, worship, blessings, pastoral care or pastoral counseling will be directed to Mitra. We recognize that there are times in which John's ministerial services might be needed. These unique situations will be jointly assessed followed by an invitation from Mitra, if needed.
Mitra and John will consult openly about congregational dynamics, as needed. In the effort to maintain our professional care for the congregation, John will share with Mitra, all information about interactions with congregants. In addition, John will not initiate contact with members, friends, or staff of the congregation. Individuals contacting John will be encouraged to speak with Mitra. John will not be available for pastoral services. When members are faced with needing ministerial conversation or assistance they will be directed to the current minister serving the congregation.
Allowing time for an adjustment to the layers of transition, John will not return to the Grosse Pointe Unitarian Church facility throughout the interim period. Of course there may be unique times in which it is appropriate for John to return to the congregation, and he will do so only upon the explicit invitation of the current minister of Grosse Pointe Unitarian Church. Additionally, John may choose to send a note of condolence to families, as appropriate.
We agree that all ministerial authority and decision making is the responsibility of the current minister. We both agree that Mitra has no obligation, nor should she have any pressure to extend an invitation for John's return to the congregation at any time.
As Minister Emeritus, John will be listed in the Unitarian Universalist Directory under Grosse Pointe Unitarian Church and is a voting delegate at the Unitarian Universalist Association annual General Assembly and District Conference. John’s vote in both national and district governing bodies will not represent GPUC. Additionally, as Minister Emeritus, John will be listed in the GPUC directory with address but not telephone number. John will receive the GPUC newsletter at his home address. The congregation is encouraged to add “Minister Emeritus” wherever John’s name is listed in church information, including on historical photographs.
This covenant comes with deep and caring recognition of the needs of a congregational community facing a ministerial transition. These needs include:
Community time to experience and mourn the loss of a former minister
Space to consider the new identity, direction, goals, and purposes of the congregation's future by recognizing the congregation as part of a larger movement
Welcome shifts of decision making process, as members discover what they want for the congregation
To reconnect with a larger movement of congregations and ministers
To welcome new ministerial (pastoral, administrative and prophetic) leadership, beginning with the Interim Minister and continuing by building deep trust with a newly settled minister
The ability and time to have an authentic bond with a settled minister is essential to a healthy ministerial call.
Our covenant will remain intact through the length of the interim ministry. Following the interim period John will continue to defer any ministerial relationship with the congregation to the called minister. The called minister's settlement period is likely to be at least two years after arrival.
(original document has been signed by Rev. Mitra Rahnema and Rev, John Corrado)